Perfecting the art of “we are just having fun right?”

An amazing friend of mine, let’s call her Yoda- my pet name for her, has lately been giving me great advice on the soap opera that is my love life. She has been teaching me the art of “we are just having fun right?” It is a talk that sometimes needs to be bestowed upon men to put a stop to any serious relationship talks. In order for me to make sense let me take you back.

As you know, I have been dating Young Man for 2 months now. Our thing, as I like to call it, has reached a cross road therefore raising the unspoken question of where to next. This is a topic I wish not to touch on yet as I do not want to make any brash decisions yet. So Yoda taught me how to have the, "we are just having fun" talk with guys. The art comes from being able to say it without upsetting the unsuspecting guy. The talk should reassure him that you love his company but also let him know that under no circumstances would he be marching you up the aisle anytime soon.

After many talks and lessons from the fabulous Yoda, I now feel that I have perfected this art and that it is now time to carry it out on Young Man. I must say that I feel terribly guilty that I am going to let him know that we will never be serious. Yes a snog here and there is great- he is an amazing kisser- but anything beyond that is a no-no!

If only he was not missing the 2 non-negotiable ingredients that I require in a potential mate then I know deep in my heart (which feels rather shallow at the moment) that we could have been discussing another matter indeed- the colour of my wedding dress Virgin white or classic cream but alas no.

It is on his note that I hope you bid me good luck, because breaking someone’s heart is not a sport that I plan on perfecting. Poor boy, but I am sure at 23 he will recover.

LSGS

PS- By the way let me acknowledge that I know that I did a disappearing act the last few weeks, and did not blog as regulary, sorry folks but I got caught up in the dating game, it wont happen again (blush)!